go grudge fuck her now. I think you can't go find any pussy you want now and fuck them in front of her now. Welcome to your new relationship. Sounds like it's getting better now.
No good when married ... been there done that one couple will want more and its usually the ones who are not married and no responsibility. The Married couple have day to day issues and often goes neglected in one of them want have sex outside of taking care of the norm. In short if you have to lie about it then why marry.